When I was 13, I saved my money to order TBRS from a catalog. TBRS. Total Body Reshaping System. At 13 I was already sure my body needed to be totally reshaped, starting with my boobs (because I had none). Over the next 10 years I raged against my body. I hated it, wished it were different. I diated, binged, overexercised. But, mostly I was just mean to it. I said a lot of nasty things to it that I would not say to my worst enemy.
When I was 21, I was at the height of my body hatred. I was in nursing school and had earned the inevitable freshman 15 … OK, by that time 30. It was the junior 30. On one particularly dark and lonely night in my Baltimore apartment, I painted a life-sized mural of myself naked. My body was misshapen and ugly in my depiction. There was no head, only clouds. This remains in my memory the illustration of my body hatred of my teens and early twenties.
When I was 23 I became pregnant with my one and only child, Lucy. Almost immediately, my relationship with my body changed. I was planning a birth center birth and wanted and needed so deeply to have a natural birth and a long easy breastfeeding relationship, that I decided it was time to have a “come to Jesus” with my body. It was time for us to confront our differences, set them as ahead and move forward.
So, I said to my body, “Body, I know I have been shitty to you for 10 years. I have thought and said horrible things about you, I have abused you, fed you poorly and sometimes not fed you at all. 'm so sorry, body. But, believe me when I tell that I have changed. You have grown this amazing baby living inside of me. Thank you for her. deserve this favor because I am such a crappy friend, but I have to ask. Please let me have my baby naturally. I will love you no matter what size you are. I will feed you well and exercise you as best as I can.
And my body obliged. It birthed my 8 lbs 14 oz baby after 15 hours of labor. On July 16, 2006, I reached down and accepted my body's gift to me: a fat, wet, wide-eyed Lucy, hot on my chest. I waived my white flag and retreated from our body war. I was humbled. I thank my body that day. Together we nourished Lucy for almost 3 years enjoying an easy breastfeeding relationship.
Since then, I swear I have not said one mean thing about my body. We have gained weight and lost weight, eat well and eat slowly, have fit and been out of shape. But we have been best friends.
You are so much more than a size or a shape; you are revelation. Thank you body.